Article | Addiction and Adoption

As some of you know, I recently started freelancing, and have been doing social media copywriting and marketing work for a non-profit for a couple of months now. Recently, my boss reached out to me to praise the job I’ve been doing lately, and offered to increase the hours on my contract in return for writing blog posts and articles for the company’s website and emailing list.

I was a bit reluctant to take the job, because between Kyle’s weird work hours, and his overtime, and me picking up this mini job doing social media stuff for my gym, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed. On top of that, the things I would be writing about are things that I have never experienced, and don’t know much about. However, the posts only need to be 500-1000 words, and my boss told me he would give me a topic each week, to give me some direction for my research, as well as some reading/watching material if need be. I also have an entire week to write the posts, so it’s not too bad, really.

I was really nervous about my first piece. Writing professionally is by no means my specialty, and it had been a long time since I had to take notes on something, and write a piece like this. My first topic was on addiction in adoptees, and I was given an hour long lecture to watch and takes notes on.

I promised a few people that I would let them read it when it went live, so I thought I would put it in this post, and post it today, since my boss already posted my article on our company’s site.

So, for anyone interested, here’s what I wrote.

Addiction and Adoption
Written by: J.H.

This week, I had the pleasure of watching a lecture by Paul Sunderland on addiction and adoption, specifically, the correlation between the two, which I found utterly fascinating. Paul Sunderland is a specialist addiction counselor, with over 25 years of experience in the field, and in his lecture, he brought up several points describing what he believes are the main causes of addiction in adoptees, whom he says are overrepresented in treatment for recovery. Mr. Sunderland went on to elaborate that, while there are a number of genetic factors when it comes to addiction and adoptees, he believes that the initial seeds of addiction begin when an infant is relinquished at, or shortly after, their birth. Human infants grow inside their mothers for roughly 40 weeks. During that time, they hear their mother’s heartbeat, and her voice. They spend 40 weeks growing, and waiting to meet this person, awaiting her breast milk, which they now know the scent of. And then, they don’t meet this person. And they know that something is very wrong.

It is fairly common knowledge that mother/infant bonding has an enormous impact on brain chemicals and neurotransmitters in newborns. Mr. Sunderland states that when an infant is relinquished, and is taken away from the mother, they can feel instinctively that without mother, they will die, and this causes a sort of trauma. Regardless of the type, during instances of trauma, cortisol and adrenaline levels in the body are raised. Without that initial mother/infant bonding, the infant would also experience reduced serotonin levels, so right away, babies of relinquishment have different levels of chemicals in their brains, and if does affect them for their entire lives. In fact, Mr. Sunderland claims that roughly 90% of adoptees are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, as well as various anxiety conditions, because they are constantly living on red alert, hyper vigilant, due to the levels of chemicals they experienced from the trauma of separation at birth.

Many adoptees also experience varying levels of depression, due to a lack of serotonin, which Mr. Sunderland believes stems from this same early trauma, as well as the inability to self-sooth. Many adoptees, especially those who suffer with these conditions, as well as an inability to self-sooth, turn to drug, alcohol, gambling, and even love and sex addictions to try and self-regulate the chemicals in their brains, to make themselves feel “normal”.

Many of the adoptees that Mr. Sunderland has spoken to and treated have an addiction, which he refers to as “love addiction”. Love addiction, according to Sunderland, is the need to regulate mood by having the positive regard from a significant other. This type of mood regulation, similar to a drug or alcohol addiction, is all about regulating anxiety and depression. It sort of works for a while, and then it doesn’t. While addiction is generally genetically proposed, and environmentally disposed, love addiction stems from issues of abandonment, as well as the trauma of relinquishment. For an adoptee, the issue of abandonment is a lifelong trauma, which can, and generally does, affect the relationships they have with those in their lives, romantic or otherwise.

According to Mr. Sunderland, one of the reasons that 12-step programs have been so successful is because the 12-step program itself is a shame and anxiety measurement program. These programs themselves are mood altering programs, which alter by keeping you in reality, through use of fellowship, self-reflection, and other methods. All addictions are about shame and anxiety, and for adoptees, shame and anxiety is magnified. Mr. Sunderland mentions that “Bad Baby Syndrome”, where it is hypothesized that a newborn baby, who has just been relinquished, feels as though the reason they are being given up is because it is their fault. This carries with them throughout their lives, where they constantly feel shame and anxiety, over things that are normally not in their control.

Many adoptees, from very early on, spend all of their time reliving these feelings from their initial trauma, and trying to make sense of the unimaginable. These particular adoptees carry with them a wound, which occurred very early on in life, from the trauma of relinquishment, and that now controls every aspect of their lives. There is not yet a category for this type of developmental PTSD that Paul Sunderland has described, but after learning about the horrible, traumatic impact that it has on the lives of so many, I firmly believe that it should absolutely be more widely recognized as a form of PTSD, so that we can help adoptees get the unique kind of help that they so desperately need.
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So, there you have it! That was my first assignment. My boss reached out to tell me he really liked it, which was a huge relief. He also gave me my second writing topic a bit early, to give me time to prepare, and while it is wildly different from the first one, I am excited about it. He is giving me more creative liberty and choice with it, and I already have a few ideas.

I hope you all learned a little something today, and if not… well, sorry?

Thanks for reading!

Jan

Author: Super Jan

I am an exceedingly average humanoid who is trying to find where I fit in the world. Opinionated, slightly vulgar, and prone to crippling social anxiety. I am a gamer, retired podcaster, wannabe voice actor, newbie freelancer, Netflix binge-watcher, YouTube addict, and a mom just trying to do my best.

3 thoughts on “Article | Addiction and Adoption”

  1. Great article! I’m happy for you writing professionally this time around, it’s a good way to start and who knows you could be up there writing for the top companies. It’s hard when I think about it too but certainly would be a good experience as it’s been for you. Have a good one😊

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