Three Line Tales | First Kiss

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Discover Challenge | Origin Story

The Daily Post Discover Challenge | Origin Story

I am from Fraggle Rock
from finger paints and pictures on the fridge
I am from the trailer in the middle of the woods
from carnations in the garden
and from dandelions in the front yard
which always seemed more beautiful to me.

I am from lazy Christmas mornings and a love of words
from a single mom, who worked too hard
I am from lies, bickering, and broken promises
from “Clean your room.” and “Leave me alone, I’m tired.”
I am from a religion I once believed in
from statues of the Virgin Mary that always gave me nightmares.

I am from Maine, with Europe in my blood
from snow forts and ice castles
I am from a warm kitchen
from canned soup, spicy chicken, and chocolate cake
From an addicted, homeless father
who was never there for me as a child.

I am from the footsteps
washed away with changing tides
but that left a deep impression.

The 5 Love Languages Test

Recently, I stumbled across a Good Mythical Morning video on YouTube, which inspired me to create a bit of a writing challenge for myself, revolving around The 5 Love Languages Test. The 5 Love Languages Test was developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, who is an accomplished author, as well as a marriage counselor, and motivational speaker. The test is a series of only 30 questions, which help you determine your love language (or your child’s), and what is most important to you in a relationship. There are 5 different love languages: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts.

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Once you complete the test, these 5 love languages will be listed, in order of importance to you, based on how you answered, and you will be given a complete breakdown on what your results mean. Here were my results:

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According to the website, my highest scoring language was Acts of Service, with 12/30 points. The website defines Acts of Service as the following:

“Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.”

Do I agree with my final results?

Nail. On. The. Head!

As a stay-at-home mom, nearly all of my time and energy is spent on my son. Cooking meals, cleaning up spills, changing diapers, teaching, playing, etc. The time that I’m not spending with my son, such as during his naps, are usually spent taking care of myself. Things such as showering, finding something of my own to eat, or even catching a short nap so that I don’t fall asleep in the middle of building a Mega Bloks tower, become priority when my little monster is in his crib. Dishes, vacuuming, folding laundry, scrubbing the toilet, and other household chores, just melt away into the chaos, and my apartment slowly turns into a war torn country. Acts of Service are like tiny Christmases in my life. They don’t happen nearly as often as I would like, however, and that is a problem for me.

My fiance works 55-65 hours a week between his two jobs, and is usually exhausted by the time he gets home. He simply does not have the time, or energy, to help me with the housework, or with our toddler. I hate my apartment being messy, and while I do manage to find the time to keep my living room, and my son’s room, neat and organized, there is so much more that I wish I could get done, but I definitely don’t really have the time or energy either.

Recently, my son had been going through a bit of sleep regression/separation anxiety, and was waking me up every hour to hour and a half. I slept terribly, and so did he. Despite this, he still managed to wake up, bright and early, ready to begin his day. I, on the other hand, could not move. My fiance, who did not have to work until later in the morning, and was still home, got out of bed, changed our son’s diaper, and occupied him for a bit so that I could get a few extra minutes of sleep before making them breakfast. In the 13 months my son has been in this world, my his father has only changed 7 diapers, including that one. He’s verrry squeamish, and even pee diapers make him queasy. For him to realize that I was basically comatose, and to take care of our son so that I could get those few moments to myself, truly meant so much to me. It wasn’t exactly emptying our sink of all the dirty dishes, but it was a huge help. If we weren’t already engaged, I would put a ring on that man so fast if he did my dishes for me…

What about my other scores?

If you had asked me all these same questions pre-baby, my answers would have been completely different. My obsession with keeping my apartment reasonably clean has basically consumed all of me, and at the end of the day, I have no desire for anything else, much to my fiance’s dismay. I’m not surprised that Physical Touch is at the bottom of the list, as it has never been that important to me to begin with, intimate or otherwise. I’ve never been big on affection in public, but lately, we have both just been too exhausted to even cuddle with each other on the couch. Well, about half of the time.

Which brings us to Quality Time, the second highest result. While I may be low on my desire for Physical Touch, I do very much love my fiance, and I value what little time we do get to spend together. We don’t have date nights, or anything like that, but even sitting next to each other, watching Netflix, means a lot to me. I look forward to the one day a week that he gets off, just so that we can go to the store as a family, or go for a walk. That means so much to me.

Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts are also low on my list of results, and there is a good reason… I simply don’t like them. Pre-baby, these things would have been tied for the absolute bottom, because both make me quite uncomfortable. Sure, I appreciate hearing, “I love you.” every once in a while, but other than that, I do not take compliments, or gifts well, even from a significant other. Every birthday, Christmas, and Valentine’s Day, I insist that Kyle not get me anything, but he refuses, and I end up with flowers, candy, a cute stuffed animal, or a new piece of jewelry. I don’t mind getting these things from him (as opposed to getting presents from family, which makes me incredibly uncomfortable, but they will not listen to reason) but they aren’t things that I actively desire. Same thing with compliments. It makes me smile when someone tells me I am a good mom, but I definitely don’t like compliments pertaining to my appearance, even from Kyle. I just don’t. Never have.

All in all, I would say that I completely agree with my results, and I understand why I got them. I didn’t necessarily learn anything new about myself, as I’ve always been pretty in-tune with my needs, but I feel like I should sit down with Kyle, show him my results, explain what they mean to me, and have him take the test as well, so that we better understand what we need from the other person. Our relationship is great, but it is not without flaws and challenges, and I feel like this exercise could help us out.

My challenge to you: Take the test, and write a post about your results, and how you felt about them. Were you surprised by your results, or were they expected? Did you learn anything new about yourself? I encourage anyone reading this to take the test, whether you are in a relationship or not. You can even take the test for your child. Who knows, it may help you understand your own needs, or someone else’s, a bit better. Let me know if you do!

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan

Three Day Quote Challenge | Day Three

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.”
― Oscar Wilde
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The Challenge

Hello, friends! Welcome to the final day of my ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’ posts. For my final quote, I chose one that sums of the very essence of my soul. This quote comes from the utterly fascinating, Mr. Oscar Wilde, who said a plethora of memorable, relatable things in his time on this earth, but this one in particular speaks to me. There is also a similar saying that I try to live by, which is, “Kill them with kindness.” Pretty self-explanatory, I feel. I spend a lot of my time online, and have for the majority of my teenage and adult life, and because of this, I’ve had my fair share of encounters with unsavory characters. I’ve always had a pretty level head, and I’ve learned not to feed the trolls, because it just isn’t worth it, and to be the bigger person. People can only bring you down, and get under your skin, if you allow them.

But, for some weird reason, these type of people also interpret kindness and genuine sincerity as attacks, and boy, it riles them up something fierce. So, whenever you have to deal with someone whose sole intent is to bring you down, or piss you off, follow the wise words of Oscar Wilde, and forgive them. Move on. Walk away. And eventually, after stroking their bruised egos for a little while, they will as well.

One last time, here is a recap of the rules of this challenge::

  1. Post in three consecutive days.
  2. You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3. Challenge three different bloggers per day.

Here are my final, three nominations for the ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’, and I sincerely hope that you all choose to take part:

  1. Amy
  2. John Jr.
  3. Supergirl

I want to thank Christina one last time for nominating me for this challenge; you guys should definitely check her out. I had a lot of fun doing this challenge, and I hope that all of the wonderful individuals that I have chosen have fun with it as well.

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan

Three Day Quote Challenge | Day Two

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
Ernest Hemingway
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The Challenge

Hello, friends. Welcome to day two of my ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’! You can read my quote from day one by clicking here. For today’s quote, I chose this one by the famous Earnest Hemingway, who I learned quite a bit about in high school and college. I like this quote, because it is so simple, and so powerful. I’ve dealt with trust issues throughout most of my life, stepping from issues with both of my parents, as well as my own insecurities with friends, and within relationships. I’ve been hurt, but haven’t we all? It’s taken me a long time to learn to trust again, and it was scary.

No one likes being hurt. But you can’t go through your entire life being afraid to trust those around you, especially the ones you choose to let into your private life. If you don’t give them your trust, then why should they give you theirs? Being hurt, and being betrayed, is a part of life, but it makes you stronger. And smarter. Smart enough to see the signs of when someone isn’t worthy of your trust. Don’t life your life in fear, take the leap, and choose trust. If you don’t trust anyone, you will drive those away who may be worthy of your trust, and your heart.

Here is a recap of the rules of this challenge::

  1. Post in three consecutive days.
  2. You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3. Challenge three different bloggers per day.

Just like yesterday, I would like to nominate the following three individuals to participate in the ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’, if they so choose:

  1. Jess
  2. Annette
  3. Matt

I really hope you guys will participate, and share with your internet friends some quotes that have had an impact on you in some way. If you can’t, that’s okay, too! I look forward to reading your posts, and to sharing more quotes with you all!

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan