Three Day Quote Challenge | Day Two

“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
Ernest Hemingway
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The Challenge

Hello, friends. Welcome to day two of my ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’! You can read my quote from day one by clicking here. For today’s quote, I chose this one by the famous Earnest Hemingway, who I learned quite a bit about in high school and college. I like this quote, because it is so simple, and so powerful. I’ve dealt with trust issues throughout most of my life, stepping from issues with both of my parents, as well as my own insecurities with friends, and within relationships. I’ve been hurt, but haven’t we all? It’s taken me a long time to learn to trust again, and it was scary.

No one likes being hurt. But you can’t go through your entire life being afraid to trust those around you, especially the ones you choose to let into your private life. If you don’t give them your trust, then why should they give you theirs? Being hurt, and being betrayed, is a part of life, but it makes you stronger. And smarter. Smart enough to see the signs of when someone isn’t worthy of your trust. Don’t life your life in fear, take the leap, and choose trust. If you don’t trust anyone, you will drive those away who may be worthy of your trust, and your heart.

Here is a recap of the rules of this challenge::

  1. Post in three consecutive days.
  2. You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3. Challenge three different bloggers per day.

Just like yesterday, I would like to nominate the following three individuals to participate in the ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’, if they so choose:

  1. Jess
  2. Annette
  3. Matt

I really hope you guys will participate, and share with your internet friends some quotes that have had an impact on you in some way. If you can’t, that’s okay, too! I look forward to reading your posts, and to sharing more quotes with you all!

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan

Three Day Quote Challenge | Day One

I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘Well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’ that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I’m sorry,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I’m sorry.’ If we all hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
― Maya Angelou
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The Challenge

Hello, friends. I am so pleased to tell you that I have once again been chosen by the lovely Christina, over at Just Blue Dutch, to participate in another fun challenge, this time, the ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’. For the next three days, I will be posting a quote with significant meaning to me, and maybe it will help some of you out there as well. I will then be choosing three special followers each day to participate (only if you want to, of course).

For today’s quote, I chose to share with you the wise words of Maya Angelou. This quote is significant to me, because it hits the nail on the head on self-acceptance and self-love, and rings so true for me, personally. I’ve spent so much of my life blaming myself for mistakes of the past, things that I did out of ignorance, and didn’t know any better. I’ve had to forgive myself time and time again, and tell myself that it is okay to make mistakes. This quote has also helped me accept that I am who I am, and that is okay. Just because I may not be someone else’s idea of perfection, doesn’t mean that I’m not perfect just the way that I am.

Now, here are the rules of this challenge::

  1. Post in three consecutive days.
  2. You can pick one or three quotes per day.
  3. Challenge three different bloggers per day.

I would like to nominate the following three individuals to participate in the ‘Three Day Quote Challenge’, if they so choose:

  1. Muma On the Edge
  2. Anndelize
  3. Lady CAS

I really hope you guys will participate, and share with your internet friends some quotes that have had an impact on you in some way. I look forward to reading your posts, and to sharing more quotes with you all!

Thanks again to Christina for inviting me to do this challenge, you guys should definitely check her out, she is such a wonderful person.

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan

Daily Prompt 2/2/2016 | Surely Not the Best Colors That You Shine

The Daily Post’s Daily Prompt 2/2/2015 | This Is Your Song

“Take a line from a song that you love or connect with. Turn that line into the title of your post.”

Crossfade ~ Colors

This song has stuck with me since 2004, when I first heard it as a freshman in high school. I loved most of my teenage life, as well as a good chunk of my young adult life, letting people tellme who I should be. How I should dress, what makeup to wear, who to talk to, what I could and couldn’t do to, because they wanted me to fit into this perfect, little bubble of who they wanted me to be. For a long time, I felt like I couldn’t be myself. I really came into my own towards the end of my high school days, and was finally able to be who I felt I was supposed to be.

Later on, after I graduated high school, I got into a relationship with a great guy, but always felt like I was living in his shadow. I even went to the college that he wanted to go to, and my life became completely dependent on him. I didn’t really have friends, and people only seemed to know me as “Matt’s girlfriend”. I resented that, wanting only to be able to be myself, and to be accepted for that. We ended up breaking up.

After that, I started a relationship with the person who had been my best friend for years. And it ended badly. He, and his family, were very controlling, manipulative, people. I felt like the insecure, high school girl that I once was, not allowed to be who I was, and having to choose my words carefully to keep the judgement at bay. He controlled every aspect of my life, and I had to rely on him for everything. I became more and more depressed, resorting to self-mutilation just to feel anything, something that I hadn’t done since I was a teenager. I was stuck in a dark face, but was forced to plaster on a smile, because no one wanted to “deal with” me. Our relationship became very emotionally abusive towards the end, and his own insecurities, brought on by his family, drove us as far apart as humanly possible while still living together. We broke up, and I had to completely start over, stranded in an unfamiliar town, surrounded by people and places that reminded me of him, his emotional abuse, and his controlling, cruel family.

Then, I met Kyle. Kyle showed me that it was okay to be who I was, even if that meant being different than those around you. Because your colors will never shine as bright if you are trying to cover them with clouds. I am so much stronger, and I shine so much brighter now.

Thanks for reading, friends.

Jan